Allyson. Caring, snarky, and socially retarded.... actually, just generally fucking retarded. rare medical diseases, classic literature, skeletal systems, crafting, exotic pets, grandparents, yoga, farm animals, low budget horror films, gardening.

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fuckyeahwomenprotesting:

lykanthropic:


Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
your first time is not supposed to hurt
IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME
REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:
Not enough lubrication.
Not enough preparation.
Not enough foreplay.
Your partner is a giant dicksplash.
TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:
LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.
Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.
This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.
Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.
If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.
even more information about the hymen

some nice information for all y’all

Honestly though I bled my first time. It didn’t hurt at all though and neither one of us realized it til after it happened. While it was super uncomfortable for a few minutes at no point did it actually hurt and it quickly began to feel nice.  I’m just adding this because it’s true it should never hurt my own personal experience was that I bled so if you do happen to bleed a little don’t be freaked out. 

fuckyeahwomenprotesting:

lykanthropic:

Every time I see a post about hymens and virginity, I need to say this and reiterate it and just make everyone understand:

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

your first time is not supposed to hurt

IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT TO BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME

REASONS YOU MIGHT BLEED FOR YOUR FIRST TIME:

  • Not enough lubrication.
  • Not enough preparation.
  • Not enough foreplay.
  • Your partner is a giant dicksplash.

TIPS AND HINTS FOR YOUR FIRST TIME THAT I WISH I HAD:

  • LUBE IS YOUR VERY BEST FRIEND! Yes the vagina secretes a fluid that can act as a natural lubricant but that is not enough for vaginal sex. And for some women (like myself), they do not secrete nearly enough for even penetration, let alone sex. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LUBE.
  • FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY!!! You want to be good and turned on, like super turned on, coz the more you’re aroused, the more pliant and warm your vagina is going to be, and it’s more likely to allow a dick in without tearing. Like even when you’re giving birth, doctors nowadays will actually massage the outer rim of your vagina so that everything loosens up and allows A FUCKING BABY TO BE BORN WITHOUT TEARING YOU.
  • PREPARATION (WHICH IS SOMEWHAT RELATED TO FOREPLAY)!!!! If you have never had anything in your vagina before, you’re probs gonna need a couple fingers in there to help you loosen up. This can easily be tied into foreplay.
  • A GENTLE, UNDERSTANDING LOVER WHO KNOWS AND RESPECTS THE ABOVE HINTS!!!! You don’t have to be in love with the person you first have sex with, but it should be someone who respects you and your boundaries!!! Before having sex with someone, explain to them these things and your masturbatory experience, your wants and needs. If they don’t respect that THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR VAGINA.

Basically it comes down to this: if your partner says “it’s normal to bleed the first time,” sit him (or her) down and talk to them about what actually happens and how it’s supposed to go. If they respect that, cool. If they don’t, fuck ‘em. Actually no, don’t fuck them, dump their ass and find someone who doesn’t subscribe to the belief that anything as lovely and intimate as your first time having sex has to hurt.

This is a basic patriarchal myth to both scare women from having sex, as well as contribute to the laziness of men in terms of making sex enjoyable for their female partners.

Sex never has to hurt. And don’t you dare let anyone tell you that it fucking has to.

If you have health problems that legitimately make vaginal intercourse hurt, there are a billion other things you can do with your partner, and you should communicate your health issues to every single partner. Again, if they respect that, rock on. If they don’t, tell them ‘adios’ and leave the bedroom.

even more information about the hymen

some nice information for all y’all

Honestly though I bled my first time. It didn’t hurt at all though and neither one of us realized it til after it happened. While it was super uncomfortable for a few minutes at no point did it actually hurt and it quickly began to feel nice.  I’m just adding this because it’s true it should never hurt my own personal experience was that I bled so if you do happen to bleed a little don’t be freaked out. 

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grubby-garbage-queen:

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"my thighs hope your thighs have a great day"

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grubby-garbage-queen:

"thighs" by Desireé Dallagiacomo

"my thighs hope your thighs have a great day"

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The past few months my heart has been swelling with pride for the previous men and best friends that are no longer a presence in my life. They have made so much progress and seem to have found true happiness whether that be in their careers, schooling, or new relationships. If there’s one thing I cannot understand is why we hold contempt for our past lovers. They’ve made such impressionable marks on a time in our life and for that we should be grateful, for they gave a piece of themselves to us and if you are now whole (which I hope you are) there is a small part of you that is still a part of them. Thank you. 

And then you realize that Forrest knows about his condition all along and your heart breaks a little.

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